My Son is Autistic - Not Broken

If you read any research on autism or autismdifferent with our son from a very young age. I
spectrum disorders, there is a large increase inam not saying it has been easy. In fact his early
the number of diagnosed cases. Since that is true,years were very challenging. We couldn't change
there is more funding to the schools to providehis routine suddenly or start a vacuum close by.
support and more and more family doctors areHe had a hard time playing with other children and
educating themselves. This means children can bethe noises he made or the way he spun around
diagnosed at an earlier age and start gettingor hopped around made other kids a little
support or help at a younger age. I think that it'suncomfortable. I have felt the stares from other
good that our society is doing more research intomoms when he would have a melt down in the
the different causes, and possible treatments. Imiddle of the grocery store. I wouldn't change him
think the danger is that in the meantime, therefor anything. He is eight now and has some
are a lot of people trying to sell a lot offriends who like him the way he is. He started the
unfounded theories. If you check the web thereyear at a kindergarten reading level and now he is
are promises of cures for autistic children. I haveat a grade 2 level.
two problems with that:His love of rock music and metal music makes
1) If there is no one single cause, you can't claimhim different from the kids his age. He has told
a cure.me every day since he was four that he will have
2) Autistic children don't need to be fixed.his own band when he's a teenager. He knows he
Like my son, many autistic children needneeds to be able to read and print his own music.
occupational, physical and even speech andOn his own, he plays his acoustic guitar and sings
language therapy intervention. They need help toevery day because he is teaching himself to play
improve their motor skills, coordination andby ear. He always reads his books at home
language comprehension. My son gets all of this.because he knows it will help learn to read his
However, it doesn't change who he is. It makes itown songs when he starts his band.
easier for him to understand and maybe to beHe also voluntarily works on his spelling and
understood. My son isn't broken. Autistic childrenprinting by making up the names of his albums
aren't broken. They don't need to be "cured" orand making up his own songs. My son looks to
"fixed". They are different, but different doesn'tmusic as an outlet and a safety zone. Autistic
mean bad. I believe that my son's uniqueness andchildren all have their fixations and their talents.
autistic talents in music and art should beThe secret is to help them channel those
celebrated. In fact, all autistic children should beinterests in good ways. They need support and
celebrated.love and understanding. They don't need to be
My husband and I knew there was somethingfixed or cured.