Surviving a Relapse and Embracing Life Again

most diseases, the road to recovery for addictionTherefore it should be noted that in order to
and alcoholism is not always a straight one. Since Iavoid a relapse in the first place one must adhere
first came into recovery sixteen years ago Ito the principle of constant vigilance with a
have suffered many relapses all quite devastatingprogram of healthy action. Regular meeting
to me and those who love me. And yet, thereattendance, talking honestly and openly with a
have been some very helpful reminders I'vesponsor and other trusted friends, daily contact
picked up along the way which have sustained mewith a higher power, reading recovery literature,
and helped me pick up the pieces and get backjournaling, all of these help. But once the relapse
into the game of life. I'd like to share these withhappens, how then does the addict get back on
you in this article.his/her feet? Usually a stint at detox is the first
First of all it should be noted that relapse happensorder of business. The addict needs to dry out
long before the addict picks up that first drug.and be off the drug for a period in order to
There are often many signs which are usually andregain balance and direction and most detox
unfortunately not apparent to the addict him orcenters offer daily meetings, healthy food, and
herself. The addict may be harboringcounseling support.
resentments, be engaging in old addictiveFor some, treatment will be necessary but for
behaviors or thinking patterns, they may bethose who have already been several times, all
obsessed with the idea of using or be hanging onthey may need to do is get back to the basics of
to a reservation that one day he/she will be ablea recovery program. A commitment to ninety
to handle a couple successfully, they may becomerecovery meetings in ninety days, daily contact
complacent or ungrateful or a host of otherwith a sponsor, a big book study, weekly
symptoms.counseling to deal with unresolved core issues,
But for most, and this has certainly been the casejournaling, step work, healthy diet and exercise
with me in the past, pain happens. The lastand lots of time spent with friends in the program.
relapse I endured I had been involved withFor those who are lucky enough to survive a
someone and fallen in love. That relationship endedrelapse they should realize that God has kept
and around the same time I had two deaths inthem alive for a reason. Maybe it's to help
the family. The pain was unbearable, the lonelinesssomeone else, maybe it's to achieve some
infected me, and rather than getting honest withchildhood dream, but whatever the case may be,
others about my pain, I began to isolate, drift intoa relapse can be the jarring experience which
self pity and remorse and the next thing I knew Istrengthens and solidifies their future recovery.
was back in the throws of a full blown relapse.